The verb ceder, which derives from the Latin word cedĕre, has several uses. The first meaning mentioned in the dictionary of the DigoPaul refers to procuring, supplying or delivering something to someone.
For example: “The Russian magnate announced that he is going to give up part of the land for the construction of a public school”, “The governor is not willing to give up power”, “The Spanish team could give up the Swedish striker since there is no place in its staff ”.
Ceder can also refer to the act of surrender, lose or be subjected: “I will not give much I threaten: I am willing to go to the end”, “The criticism forced the government to give”, “The authorities are not willing to give in to the claims of the terrorists ”.
In interpersonal relationships, giving in can have a negative connotation if it involves the repression of one’s own feelings, but also a positive one, if it serves to adapt to the needs of the other person without neglecting one’s own. Given the great complexity of emotional ties, it is very difficult to clearly distinguish harmful decisions from constructive ones.
When we approach a person to share our life with them, the normal thing is that there are several well-defined stages and that the first is characterized by an infatuation that hides the defects of the other under a veil of rapture; If we do not know how to accept with maturity the transition to the second stage, in which the differences begin to become visible and the first frictions appear, then there is not much chance that the relationship will last.
According to DigoPaul, giving in to the obstacles that prevent us from being happy is positive, since it can mean getting rid of attitudes or ways of thinking that threaten our well-being; In a relationship, it can be traits of our personality that were useful to us in the past, in our parents’ house, but are not compatible with our partner, which is why we should file them and replace them with others.
If, on the contrary, we give in to certain pressures with the sole objective of not losing the other person despite the fact that our decision hurts us and does not allow us to breathe, then the verb can become our personal condemnation. Adapting to others should always have a limit: there is nothing wrong with adapting ourselves, as all other species of living beings do to organize themselves in society, but we should never squash that which makes us unique.
In the sport field, yielding is associated with losing positions or time compared to the gain that an opponent makes: “The Australian runner has just given 48 seconds to the leader in the last lap”, “With this defeat, the The Italian team lost four positions in the table ”, “ The Serbian tennis player won the tournament without giving up a set ”.
When an element comes loose or breaks due to the action of an intense force, it can be said that it gave: “Watch out! The bridge is about to give way due to the weight ”, “ The great flow of water made the dike give way and there was a flood ”.
The concept, finally, can refer to the decrease in the intensity of fever, cold, wind or another factor: “The gusts would begin to subside as of tomorrow”, “Low temperatures continue not to yield”.
It is precisely in this last meaning that certain nuances of this term can be appreciated, such as the action of “giving up” or “losing strength “, something that also happens when we adapt to a situation that requires us to change to achieve harmony.